This blog may contain some matter inappropriate for totally unaware kids to read. And yes if anyone takes offense to this, i am not sorry for it.
The Delhi rape case, which occurred in the bus, created
a sensation across the country. Someone
asked a girl to meet him at the marketplace in Delhi. She was abducted from
there and raped. A bharatnatyam dance teacher in Navi Mumbai raped his student.
A 4 year old girl was molested by a bus conductor. In Pune, a vice-principal
molests a girl. The school authorities denied it, claiming that the girl had a
flawed character and followed unethical practices like friendship with boys.
Every time I pick up the newspaper, this is all I read.
Rapes, domestic violence, murdering one’s own family, are all I can see
everywhere. Eve-teasing has become a common issue. Even the reporter who was
put on the Delhi rape case faced eve-teasing. Parents have started talking like
– I don’t feel like sending my daughter out of the house anymore. We are
talking about a country who worships Saraswathi as the Goddess of knowledge,
Lakshmi as the Goddess of wealth and Durga as the Shakti or divine energy; a
country once known for respecting the integrity of women; a country I always
considered myself lucky to be born in. But now I loathe the same motherland, as
it has betrayed me.
In spite of the economic advancement and educational
reforms, our mindset remains the same. Men think they have power over women and
show their authority by penetrating them. The husband is still the ‘pati-parameshwar’,
to whom, his woman bows down. Failing to do so, she is subjected to belts and
canes. The bahu of the house gets maltreated if she is unable to bear the heir
of the family. Working or not, women end up doing all the household work too,
while her husband puts his feet up and enjoy some television.
I have girlfriends, whose parents want them to complete
some basic degree, do a ‘nine to five’ job for some years and then get married.
Some of the parents think it’s unnecessary for a girl to study too much. Many
of them already train their daughters to go into their ‘sasural’. Meanwhile the
sons are enjoying some beer, playing Skyrim or having a debate on who should be
Chelsea’s next manager. I myself have been asked this question – Why do you
want to study so much? Just find someone rich to marry instead.
Another surprise was when I learnt that someone I knew
pretty well was asked for dowry. I honestly thought that the educated lot
stopped this practice. She was from a well to do family with good values and
sense. The bigger shock was when I heard that they were ready to pay it. The girl’s
side was ready to pay for a grand ceremony as well, as the boy’s side demanded.
If a girl is raped, molested or gets involved in any
affair, boys reject her later on. She is termed as impure, no matter how good
is she from the heart. They want someone white, so that they can colour her
with their own filthy hands. The skeletons in a boy’s closet are just a sign of
his carefree youth. Boys always get a fourth chance, but often the first chance
is snatched away from a girl. Our society is truly hypocritical.
Small girls are subjected to the bad touch by their
uncles. These uncles are often the most respected ones in the family and they
are consulted for all major decisions. If the girl utters a word against the
monster, she is called a liar and someone who cannot ‘respect’ her elders. Honestly
does this particular elder deserve any ‘respect’? The girl too is forced to
attend family functions which she dreads. In all the chaos and negligence, the
disgusting uncle takes a chance and gets too close to his beautiful little
niece. She knows it’s wrong, but is left helpless. She doesn’t even know why it’s
wrong and how to put it in words. She wouldn’t know how to frame it in a
sentence.
The Pune case isn’t quite different. The girl’s
character is blamed as she does ‘unethical practice like friendship with boys’.
Have you heard anything more ridiculous? Recently, while I was spending some
time with a close friend of mine who lacks the y-chromosome, I received those
prying eyes. While my own parents had no problems, good Lord knows what they
were concerned about! Forget the middle aged gossip group; even my own friends
have this sick mentality. Some girls in our college are more likely to be seen
around boys. Such girls are termed as desperate for attention or only
interested in boys. Girls thinking so about other girls, it’s pathetic.
After all this, do you still call India a free country? Our
laws are liberal but our mind isn’t. We women are still looked down on, that
too by other women. No matter who does what, it’s our character and integrity that
goes under a microscope. Many politicians have yet again proved their smartness
by commenting on how women should get married early or stay at home only. No
one talks about teaching the other sex to show some respect to women. Even parents
don’t care what their sons do because their sins will be forgiven. The truth
is, women don’t respect women, how do we expect men to? It’s time we stop
judging and start showing some dignity.
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